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current weekly topic WILLINGNESS Sunday 7pm topic

David 12 10 2019 8:52 pm (sent from my mobile)
Willingness was something foreign to me coming in the program, today though. Im willing to read the big book a few minutes everyday, im willing to say a prayer even.though i often feel its a complete useless waste of time. I do it anyway. Im willimg yo write down a gratitude list. Im willing to share myself with others. Im willing to have new experiences in my recovery path instead of attempting to stay sober on old experienced in the program. Im willing to let people go in my life who want to leave im not going to beg them to stay even when i love them and miss them so much. Im willing to be alone today and be alright with it

David 12 10 2019 8:46 pm (sent from my mobile)
Willingness was something foreign to me coming in the program, today though. Im willing to read the big book a few minutes everyday, im willing to say a prayer even.though i often feel its a complete useless waste of time. I do it anyway. Im willimg yo write down a gratitude list. Im willing to share myself with others. Im willing to have new experiences in my recovery path instead of attempting to stay sober on old experienced in the program. Im willing to let people go in my life who want to leave im not going to beg them to stay even when i love them and miss them so much. Im willing to be alone today and be alright with it

Chad 12 10 2019 8:12 pm (sent from my mobile)
Chad, alcoholic.  Grateful to be sober, and grateful that Alan's share helps me share here about fear.  I fear that it's my duty, toward someone who's not doing what they need to do  to treat their disease, to either persuade them to change or enable them.  Grateful for the4thStep fear prayer ๐Ÿ‘ 

alan 11 October 5:57 pm
Hi all, Alan alcoholic.
Tonight's step meeting is based on Step Ten:
Continued to take personal inventory and when we were wrong promptly admitted it. click to read pdf of the steppdf download We meet on Zoom for an audio/video meeting every 2nd and 4th Fridays at 7pm Paris time. AT THIS LINK
Meeting starts in under an hour, look forward to seeing/hearing you!
" For the wise have always known that no one can make much of his life until self-searching becomes a regular habit, until he is able to admit and accept what he fi nds, and until he patiently and persistently tries to correct what is wrong"

alan 27 September 5:49 pm
Hi All, Alan alcoholic.
It's the fourth Friday of the month so tonight at 7pm Paris time we have our Step Meeting.

Tonight's topic is: Step Nine - Made direct amends to such people wherever possible, except when to do so would injure them or others. click to read pdf of the steppdf download We meet on Zoom for an audio/video meeting every 2nd and 4th Fridays at 7pm Paris time. AT THIS LINK



Chad 26 September 1:11 am
Chad, alcoholic.  Grateful to be sober, and that I get to share about the 9th Step this ninth month.  Saturday, at the Archives committee meeting, I was sharing with my long timer friend Rod about how I did harm through my writing when drinking, but may be able to help out with rewriting the AA history book(let) for this Area, eastern Missouri.  He said he could definitely see how that could be "an amend."  

alan 22 September 2:59 pm
Hi all, Alan alcoholic.
Tonight's Zoom Beginners meeting will start at 7pm Paris time at the following link:
Doors open at 6:30pm. Chair person and attendees will decide the topic.

The current weekly topic Is still BACK TO BASICS but I've addded Live in the present, one day at a time.

You may find the following text helpful:
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"We are learning to live in the present, one day at a time. We are letting go of the 
past."

The future we place in trust to our Higher Power. Time doesn’t work against us or
challenge us, it just flows. This day need not be painless or close to paradise for us
to live in the present moment. Being aware of our lives without struggling against
time makes the day rich and full of meaning. Today, rather than wrestling with time,
I will be aware of my experiences and let time flow.

(from "Touchstones: A Book of
Daily Meditations for Men (Hazelden Meditations) (English Edition)" by Anonymous)
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See you later!


Chad 18 09 2019 9:18 am (sent from my mobile)
Chad, alcoholic.  Grateful to be sober, and welcome to Michael, and thanks Alan for your shares.  Willingness to make amends is especially helpful for me to consider since I've moved to near where I did a lot of my drinking and drugging, 1991-2001, and there may be amends I haven't yet made, maybe don't even know yet that I owe.  Hopefully any will be revealed that need to be as I continue reworking the Steps with my sponsor's guidance (and maybe the guidance of others too as you've helpfully shared, Alan--I need to remember that my God/HP has blessed me with help through many channels since I got sober).  And I believe I can pray for willingness; working the Steps with my sponsor Dave 2014-15, I started to see that if I really need it, I can pray for it.  

alan 13 September 9:40 am
Alan alcoholic.

Thanks Micha, reading you again you were in hospital last year but are not at present?
Aside from Caen, there are 2 meetings in Mortain, Monday morning and Friday evening. There is no meeting in Granville any more, there's an occasional meeting at my place in Cérences face to face, about once a month.

The website continues as before, Beginners meeting on Sunday and Step meeting Fridays at 7pm Paris time on Zoom at the following link:
https://zoom.us/j/6907802229

It's not clear where you live exactly so I could help further, if you'd care to let me have your mobile phone number at webmaster@aaonlineen.fr I'd be happy to call you talk and see what other information I can give you. I believe we've talked before and you've been to our meetings online.

Keep coming back.

Alan

Micha 13 09 2019 6:55 am (sent from my mobile)
Hallo, i am Michael and i am an addict I am now back in the Normandie where i had a bad accident last year. It is not like the holidays before. I am looking for every step i make. I have very strange dreams by night. And i just see me... i realize that this morning. It was also a drama last year for my girlfriend that i have the accident. Sheaโ€™s alone in the house from Anne moment to another with the dogs and no car. I am in hospital andere managed everything. I am so in me that i cant see that she is also afraid that it happendagain and she also looks at the steps i do that i am save. I will try to go to a meeting today in Caen. I dont know if here in Normandy is another meeting. Ire you still in Granville Alain? Big hugs to all, Michael

alan 12 September 12:24 pm
Alan alcoholic.

On the topic of STEP NINE


There will be a Zoom meeting this Friday 13th September at 7pm Paris time at this link:

 
There's a great opening at this meeting for those who have experience of the steps, who have properly worked them all in the recommended manner. Chairpersons are required to guide us less experienced members through working the steps.

I for one would appreciate such guidance, not just this once but a day at a time as the years go on and more is reveiled. I've never believed that the steps could be rapidly worked and then no longer needed. I may be wrong but in the case of that being correct I will be bang on for at least one aspect of this program...

Working the steps with all comers, new and old, is a vital part of my recovery and I look forward to seeing some of you thomorrow.



alan 9 September 8:36 am
Alan alcoholic.

I do apologise for inactivity, we are now on Step Nine and there will be a Zoom step meeting this coming Friday 13/9 at 7pm Paris time.

The current weekly topic is willingness and I think it's still good for now when considering the current step.

Having made the list and become willing (in Step 8) there may be cases where the amends can no longer be made for geographical or temporal reasons. I recently had an opportunity where there was possibility and discovered that I was willing. On the other hand there are many amends I can never get to make. The work on inventory and willingness seem important to me and that's what I continue to work on.
Quite honestly, for me, there's a long way to go with the amends issue, there are many cases which seem so far out of reach. I'll be here though to work the steps next year again as we cycle through them according to the current month. It's my hope that more will join me as I need the help of other alcoholics to continue my own progress, a day at a time. And God will always give me another chance, as long as I let Him.

alan 23 August 11:38 am
Hi all, Alan alcoholic.

We are on Step Eight and I justr changed the weekly topic to...WILLINGNESS.

Nobody, I feel, is standing over me waiting for results but as the desire to stop drinking is so paramount to our recovery so is willingness. I'm currenttly working on the willingness to budge on ingrained ideas that I need to change in order to continue spiritual progress.

I come to AA in order to not forget that I have the disease and also to accept the more difficult realities and become willing to change.
Tonight's Friday Step Meeting will be at 7pm (Paris time) at:
https://zoom.us/j/6907802229

I'd love to see you there!
Alan

Chad 23 08 2019 8:24 am (sent from my mobile)
Chad, alcoholic.  This month, it's hit me maybe for the first time that Step 8 really helps me remember the harms that I did when I was drinking--nearly killing myself, risking others' lives, getting violently abusive in intimate situations, and other horrors.  That is a list of what this disease did to and through me, and just some of what AA saves me from, one wonderfully sober day at a time.  Grateful for your part in my sobriety today!  Show you care with a share ๐Ÿ‘

alan 9 August 6:13 pm
Step meeting starting in 15 minutes at https://zoom.us/j/6907802229
We will be working on Step eight.
Guest speaker Chad from St Lois USA
See ya there!

Chad 06 08 2019 1:16 pm (sent from my mobile)
Chad, alcoholic.  Grateful to be sober, and thanks, Alan, for the helpful share on Step 8.  My hero Paul M, 62 years sober when he passed!, kept a running 8th Step, and that's been helping me to do, too. 

Some names came to me, of people I had harmed in the workplace earlier in sobriety, with my must-get-ahead and also people-pleasing defects I believe.  and it was a real help to be able to add them to the saved email draft that's my running 8th Step.

Yesterday, I was listening to another sober alcoholic share about Steps 8 and 9--and having killed some people while driving drunk.  While I can't ever be positive that I didn't do that, because I blacked out so much, I am truly grateful that our 12 Steps daily save me from that horror, by keeping me sober.  



alan 3 August 8:25 am
Alan alcoholic.

The "willingness" seems once again to be the key. It may nonetheless not always be possible, for varying reasons, to make the desired amendment.

Based on an accurate self appraisal, it becomes clearer to me what is and what isn't possible interms of amends and there's also the all important question of my behaviour stemming from character defects and of correcting sais behaviour through taking action.

As I work this through I find some relief as the corrections I've been able to make bear their fruits in my daily life. It's very gratifying and comforting and, as I've just been told by an old timer, that's what it's all about: me becoming comfortable with myself and living with my own limitations.

Chad 28 07 2019 7:01 am (sent from my mobile)
Chad, alcoholic.  Grateful to be sober and for your helpful shares!  Can definitely identify with that bar being raised higher.  My fellow alcoholic older brother was maybe more of a parent than my dad was, and I seemed to never be sure what would get me his approval.  Also, I can definitely identify with economic insecurity--rent's due in 3 or 4 days, my phone and credit card bills are late (again), I also have a hospital bill, maybe three different therapists I owe, and I don't know how any of it is going to get paid.  Let alone what might happen with my taxes.  My fear/ego/disease says I'm doomed by all of the above, and also that God won't help me because I deserve negative consequences.  Grateful those are lies, and that I can use the fear prayer from Step 4 on them, like my dear friend Shawn D suggested.  Maybe my defect is in giving my mind's lies the benefit of the doubt.  

alan 27 July 7:28 am
Hi all and thanks Mark for your share, much appreciated!

I identifyt with what you're going through; I just feel lucky to have so few responsibilities, it's what I think I always needed in order to give my creative soul space to develope although, strangely, at times I have sought the opposite...Alcoholics may be considered as creatures of contradiction; time alone to meditate a step is good but so is making admissions in front of another and requesting help (in step 7 it's God I address).

The AA programme works because it caters to all sides of my character, leading me to accept and adopt compromises and take action in order to turn theory into practice.

I can only do my best but, in the end, it's God's will which will prevail and my vocation to find the humility and the will to ask His help to remove my shortcomings.


markb 26 07 2019 9:44 pm (sent from my mobile)
Good evening Alan, I do apologise I did not make tonight's meeting. Major National Infrastructure Go-Live this weekend across the UK after a 2+ year programme. Unfortunately put work above my sobriety tonight, which I would not recommend to newcomers.  I hope you enjoyed your alone time to meditate!  Mark

alan 26 July 8:02 pm
Hi all, Alan alcoholic.

It was quiet this evening so I did some reading on Step seven and the implication of humility as in all the steps.

The thought came to me that I need to gain progress with humility through the group, and AA as a whole, rather than on my own. I have increasinglyly realised that alone I cannot make grow in sobriety.

Have a safe and sober weekend!
Alan

David 26 July 4:50 pm
For some reason it want let me paste the link, but it's a video by Mark Passio The True self vs Pseudo self. One is based in love the other false self is based on fear. Shortcomings let me know i'm anything but perfect, but at the same time, My God or higher power loves me and totally accepts me just as I am, even though other people provide conditional love, God or the Higher Power provides a unconditional love that is very different than anything I've experienced in my life. I grew up with a very toxic poor model of love, love was always conditional with my parents, certain behavior = love. But if I behaved a certain way, the bar was always set a little higher than my behavior, thus you never recieved love because I never could obtain the mark or something weird like that. It was really more about controlling my life than truly loving me. AA has shown me another model of unconditional love that I never experienced growing up. 

David 26 July 4:44 pm
hello all, I haven't posted here for a few weeks now, just been spending time here in Manila with my daughter Sabrina and looking for employment opportunities all of which seem to be mostly in the US, which means I'll probably be leaving my daughter and girlfriend here shortly to return to the US to go to work. FInancially it's been very stressful lately, shortcomings that I seem to deal with constantly is self pity, mixed in with some anger, with a toping of fresh brand new resentments. Even in sobriety, I seem to form or create new resentments, but most of the time my resentments are ego based. Meaning they arise when I attempt to control other people's lives or manipulate other people to behave or act in specific ways that I deem suitable for the events in my life, when I fall back into the director role of my life this sort of shit comes up. There's a video I recent discovered in youtube, and this guy really seems to have the pulse on this self centeredness or self centered behaviors and how to distinguish between a healthy self identity and a sick unhealthy self identity I'll paste the link here if you care to take a few moments of your life to watch for yourself.




alan 25 July 10:02 pm
Alan alcoholic.
Tomorrow, 4th Friday in July, there will be a step meeting on the current step.

Step Seven - Humbly asked Him to remove our shortcomings.

The link will be as usual: https://zoom.us/j/6907802229 Look forward to seeing you!

alan 20 July 8:40 am
Hi there! Alan aloholic.

It's wonderful to read so much, to have so much inspiration gifted to me.

I do humbly ask God to remove my shortcomings and I pray, at the same time, that I ge given the clarity to be able to see exactly what those shortcmings are. One example is my short sighted tendency (I do literally have that as well) in the metaphoric sense where I just ignore or refuse to see things I find difficult to accept.

Of course it's my ego, that old enemy, doing this and I need to look in the background to ascertain exactly what's wrong and what course of action to take, and prayer alone will not always work. Reading, listeniong, meetings, working with newcomers, writing lists; all this will help me to have a better perception of where I went, or go wrong.

Being prepared to is fine, getting into action with preparations to take action is even better.

"To know and say is good; to know and say nothing is better" (Confucious).

A good example for me as I've a long way to go in that - so much for my willingness!


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